Leaders carry a different kind of pressure. Whether that pressure is from other people or ourselves, it can be crushing. Shawn Lovejoy at Courage to Lead has some great reminders for all of us that strive to do our best. We hope this will encourage you to accept grace and find confidence in the leader that you are meant to be.
Self doubt is one of the most difficult hurdles to overcome in leadership. Self doubt can become a persistent, powerful voice that holds us back from stepping out into our legacy! I talk with leaders about getting their “swagger” back or possessing a holy confidence. I believe every great leader possesses it! To get there, however, we have to overcome our tough self doubts.
Here are 6 Ways To Overcome Self Doubt:
Stop Being a Perfectionist
Consider this: if you can look back and be proud of everything you’ve done…you probably haven’t learned anything! Celebrate your progress. Don’t focus on what you’re not. Don’t focus on what you can’t do. Don’t focus on your failures. Focus on lessons learned. Don’t be a perfectionist. Don’t worry about “excellence.” Focus on consistency and persistence. It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be!
Enjoy the Journey
Growth and Learning is the real fun! If you’re not happy now, you won’t be happy then. The most important choice you can make today is to have joy in your life and to enjoy the journey. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. Enjoy the journey not just the destination! Stop beating yourself up. Stop being your worst critic. Believe in yourself as much as your God believes in you! You are His child and He has big plans for you!
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Do it Your Way
Counterfeit and copycat leaders are easy to spot and difficult to follow in the long run. Stop being a copycat. Stop trying to be like everyone else. Dave Ramsey says: “If you live like no one else now, you will live like no one else later.” Love that! Be the best version of you.
Stop Listening to Most People
Don’t listen to most people. Most people will be armchair quarterbacks, or jealous critics. Only listen to people who love God (makes them others-focused); loves your VISION (makes them loyal and supportive); and people who love YOU (makes them be honest with you)! I’m going to to write an entire post about this one!
Filter Your Eyes and Your Mind
You’ve heard the old adage: “Garbage in, Garbage out,” but I don’t believe that’s entirely true. Some garbage stays inside! Filter what you watch, who you listen to, and surround yourself with. Set boundaries around negative people and influences. Hang out with positive people.
Get a Coach!
I can honestly not remember a time when I left a conversation with one of my coaches, and did not come away inspired, encouraged, and more confident! I simply believe every leader needs a coach, for this, among many other reasons! Get a coach!
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